I got so much amazing feedback from my blog I did yesterday on relationships, I was asked a question and decided I had to do a part 2

Actually I didn’t decide the Angels were nudging me on. So here is what I am being told about this question of enjoying the relationship.

Beautiful ones, the enjoyment in a relationship can start at any time. When you can enjoy being with yourself, by yourself and just with yourself and Spirit then all other relationships will begin to mirror this in your life. The lesson’s in a relationship never stop because we are always growing and evolving and if the lesson’s stopped then there would be no where to grow and no evolving. When you get to the point where you feel like you are tired of the lesson’s and just want to have fun, ask yourself what is it that you are using as an excuse for not allowing yourself to be who you truly want to be in the relationship?

In other words, when I was having problems with my boyfriend at first I kept blaming him for the problems. I kept thinking if he would just listen to me, follow the things I have said I needed and behave then I would be happy and would not get upset. I blamed him for us growing apart, and kept making myself right. I was able to learn some lessons and then got tired of always being the one to be conscious in the relationship and didn’t want to anymore I just wanted things to work and be easy….right???

I was missing the whole point of the lesson. It wasn’t until I looked myself in the mirror and took full responsibility for everything then things began to change. I decided I wanted to just focus on me and figuring out why I needed my boyfriend to follow this list I came up with to feel good? Why does he have to play a role in order for me to be happy with him or the relationship? Where did these rules come from and why did I need and hold onto them so tightly? I realized I had these list of wants and needs because it was my ego or inner child who I had not healed who needed these things outside of me in order to feel safe and loved. I was looking outside of myself for the love and attention I was so thirsty for which could only come from within.

When we say this love comes from within we are simply saying being so happy and so complete in your own life that you dont need another man or woman to feel good or to create the joy in your life. You have already found a way to create it and the other person compliments or adds unto the Joy that is already there.

You have to be complete and full within yourself, you cannot expect someone to fill you up because they cannot. They are human and have their own way of giving and receiving love that is based on how they were Loved. Do you realize we base Love what real Love is usually on how we were Loved by our Parents and Family. So then we expect others to Love us in this way and they cannot. The only one who can love us in a perfect way is “Us” ourselves. So, I decided to focus on me and get clear about what I thought about Love, my own Rules and Beliefs about it and realized it was all based on a skewed way of thinking…….because of how I grew up. I then realized I was getting the Love I always wanted but it was in a different way.

I began to take responsibility for my own feelings and well being an didn’t need the relationship to make me feel good. I made my own self feel good by having date night with Savonn, and taking Savonn here and there…..going hiking with Savonn…..does this make sense?

When I began to accept myself completely and love myself completely I was then able to accept and love my partner completely without trying to change him, manipulate him or expect him to be anything else than what and who he was. This my dear friends is a relationship that is based on unconditional love and allowing…..I am allowing my boyfriend to be who he is…….and I dont need him to do anything in order to make me feel Loved, or Special. I can do this all on my own. I was able to enjoy him and his presence in my life and be his partner side by side with no rules.

The drama stopped and the relationship began to mirror the relationship I had started to have with myself.

I hope this is reaching someone, remember your relationship is a mirror for the relationship you have with the Divine or You….because you are the Divine living as you. When there is stuff going on you dont like in your relationship just check in with your spirit to see where you are out of alignment with yourself, and where you are not acting with integrity with your own self.

When you start to enjoy who you are, being alone without “needing” anyone around……..things will change and the enjoyment can start now and you and your partner will be able to experience each other in a new way…….because one of the mirrors has changed which means the other mirror is going to reflect what has been placed in front of it……….

Relationships can be complicated but its really all about you in the end. As we move towards a new collective way of thinking and being I can tell you the old EGO “Fear” based way of being in a relationship with all these rules aint gonna get it……..We are spirits who seek to be free from rules…….the new way is having spiritual partnerships where the relationship is based on allowing…….we each have our own journeys and have the divine god given right to choose whatever we want…….I dont have to do all these things to make you feel special…….you stand in your own power and you feel special because you know who you are and vice versa………

Again, Im a Taurus which means “Hopeless Romantic” LOL So what about Valentines Day?, and a nice gift or romantic evening to show you care? I want all of those things, I want to experience all of those things……but I do not give my power away to those things and have to have them to be happy. I am happy if I have it or not but I’m still happy. Those things simply add to my joy that I created. I do things all the time to make me feel special and loved and wanted………so naturally others will do the same…..”Law Of Attraction. We teach people how to treat us based on how we treat ourselves……..

So let the past go, begin to focus on yourself……LOVE yourself and accept yourself fully and know you are worthy of LOVE. Look yourself in the mirror in your own eyes and say I LOVE YOU, I really really LOVE YOU and notice how you feel…. Start to have fun now with YOU, Yourself and YOU….LOL and watch all your other relationships begin to mirror this…… We always want to be around those people filled with so much positive energy its because they LOVE themselves and enjoy being in their own company. We can always tell who the energy vampires are because they “need” attention and act out……..and they are draining to be around.

You be the Star and the Light you were created to be and allow everything else to come to you………people will begin to show you the LOVE that you show yourself and it will be an amazing thing.

I hope this helps and resonates with you, I am still a work in progress but I know it always begins with me and what is in my heart.

Love and Blessings

Savonn

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